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[hhhh1]

explanation:

when i was 17 i was already pretty big/strong for someone that didnt lift/wasnt black.weighed 85kg and was reasonably muscley (could rep out 80kg on bench when i first started). started lifting so id do better when i got into fights at parties and stuff, and for the bitches (srs). just bought a bench and some weights for $50 and trained at home.

obviously i started enjoying lifting, and kept it up. i never aspired to be a 'bodybuilder'/'powerlifter' and i will never be one.

however somewhere along the way over the next 5 years i think lifting took over and is somehow ruining my life (srs). its kind of hard to put my finger on how exactly it is having this effect so i cant really explain it but ill try.

i think ended up putting everything else in my life second to lifting. i wont even go out and drink much anymore. dont really have any close mates in the city i am currently living in. plus i dont really think lifting is all that sustainable/healthy when it becomes an obsession.

when i went over to aus i pretty much had to put lifting second to my work and social life. think this was a good thing as it gave me a better perspective and i actually had a pretty decent time over there.

i dont know if any of this makes any sense. probably just need some balance but f*ck it, all or nothing. would rather look back on my life and remember doing/seeing cool and interesting stuff than be like "oh yeah i lifted 'x' kg for 'y' reps once" or "i weighed 'x' kg at around 'y' bodyfat" and feeling like shit if i dont go to the gym.

cliffs:

-dont have any goals

-feel like lifting and associated lifestyle ruining my life

-feel trapped

-need to escape

inb4 trolling

inb4 lifting again next week

inb4 secretly still lifting

would be genuinely interested to hear anyones thought on the subject. what should i do? (srs)

[I Declare War]

I feel your pain.

cut the lifting back to 3x per week. much more sustainable.

When people discuss my lifting sometimes i hear "i bet he lifts most days of the week." only 3x is my answer, thats 3/7 less than most days.

if u cant make the progress you want doing 3x then youre doing something wrong. judging by your workouts here youre doing way too mich volime sometimes. No wonder u r burning out and questioning things.

[hhhh1]

maybe youre right.

the thing is i feel bad if i take 1 rest day. while i was training the last time i had a rest day was 2 months ago, and was because i had to drive early in the morning then catch 4 different flights so going to the gym was not an option. strong addiction...

[PeterDolan]

I understand what you mean but no idea how it controlls your life to be honest.

I train sure and eat to my goals but I still have time to work on my life goals and there is no way that anything would ever get put on the back burner in the quest of getting bigger. By the sounds of it, it's not that the gym is getting it the way of your life, you're getting in the way of yourself.

I'm not judging you and saying you need to sort shit out, you're gonna do what you feel best for yourself, I just think that you've just allowed gym to be first, not actually put it first

[hhhh1]

I understand what you mean but no idea how it controlls your life to be honest.

I train sure and eat to my goals but I still have time to work on my life goals and there is no way that anything would ever get put on the back burner in the quest of getting bigger. By the sounds of it, it's not that the gym is getting it the way of your life, you're getting in the way of yourself.

I'm not judging you and saying you need to sort shit out, you're gonna do what you feel best for yourself, I just think that you've just allowed gym to be first, not actually put it first

yes i think its fair to say that i do need to sort my shit out. and yeah i dont really understand it entirely myself but i think in terms of training that i feel like i have to give it everything.

-cant take rest days

-will still train if injured

-wont do other stuff if it interferes with training in any way

if i dont give it everything i feel like i have failed. and yes its obviously not the fact that i lift that is the problem, its the mentality i have with regards to training. i would like to change this but i dont think i can very easily

[tomleegolf]

Lol lmao rofl lmfao

[hhhh1]

double edit: natty 4 life crew ; )

[karm015]

just take a break bro. see how you feel after a week, couple weeks, a couple months even

it isn't necessarily the lifting that is the problem, could be some other issue in your life and you just haven't realized

if i dont give it everything i feel like i have failed. and yes its obviously not the fact that i lift that is the problem, its the mentality i have with regards to training. i would like to change this but i dont think i can very easily

sure you can, but not with that attitude. take a break, then go back to the gym and do your best to maintain a more laid back mindset while you're there

[thatwaslight]

just do what i do lift occasionally and enjoy your life. f*ck letting lifting weights take over so many amazing things life has to offer. so much more to life than being a meat head who lives there life to a strict diet etc

[hhhh1]

cheers for responses guys. i will take a break for a while longer at least. see how i feel then.

maybe if i break my routine of training every day for long enough i will be able to get back into it with a more laid back approach...hope so

maybe i will have found some other things to do by then? who knows. will wait and see i guess.

really appreciate the advice (srs)

[ohjoshua]

My 2 cents,

if/when you get back into it just follow a program that being how many days per week you want to train... Be it 3 days there are lots of 3* days programs you can follow.

Im the opposite to you at the moment. I have spent just over a year hardly training... Have got back into training 2 days per week consistantly and im loving it. I work full time and uni full time so this is what is suitable for me.

Good luck with what ever you decide.

[hhhh1]

yeah been like 2 weeks now. sick of not lifting (actually did bit of legs a couple times to try get my form better). pretty much spent the rest of the 2 weeks doing uni sht, went bodyboarding, and came on here a few times and fapped to some of the avi's

being at uni theres actually f*ck all else to do in dunedin besides lifting. gonna do back tomorrow. will let u know how it goes...i expect it will be sht

inb4 quit again tomorrow

inb4 faggot

[Dinahlady]

(actually did bit of legs a couple times to try get my form better)

\:D/

[tomleegolf]

When I grow up, I want to be a phaggot just like hhhh1

[hhhh1]

When I grow up, I want to be a phaggot just like hhhh1

thanks man, i would not want it any other way. and thx for letting me use your avi, it really helped

[Growth]

yeah been like 2 weeks now. sick of not lifting

[hhhh1]

did back...as expected it was shit. actually shit is an understatement.

bw pullups

12

10

8

8

8

tried to do deads

140x10

180x5 (should get 10 easy)

200x5 (should get 7 easy)

220x1 (got 6 last time)

did lat-pulldowns went well, heavy.

(probly coz i wasnt tired from deads like i normally am)

maybe 5 sets

hands were too fucked tried wrapping them in tape/bandages but nah fukn useless. too painful to even do a proper set. got some razor blades and hacked into them a bit, and got some thin gardening type gloves from bunnings (gloves=massive faggot), will go gym again later and try do some proper deads. dont really have high hopes though.

[hhhh1]

did deadlifts:

180x9

200x7

220x5

220x5

220x4

220x4

200x5

180x5

3 sets lat pulldowns

gloves worked well to keep hands from hurting but harder to grip with them on

[thatwaslight]

mean deads brah xx

[hhhh1]

thx man. felt like a fukn queer wearing the gloves though (they were white too)

[thatwaslight]

thx man. felt like a fukn queer wearing the gloves though (they were white too)

lol u done goofed brah!

[bang_bang]

Why the f*ck don't you get some straps i'm sick of reading about your bleeding mutated hands lol. Good to hear your lifting again though, i can't stand the thought of not lifting. Getting smaller/weaker= bad feel.

[Android]

you know you're addicted when you can't quit

good comeback, ditch the gay gloves though, I heard if you pee on your hands they toughen up over night ... jus sayin'

[tomleegolf]

A man who go to bed with hard problem wake up with solution in hand.

I think a quote appropriate for your situation.

[hhhh1]

yeah will be ditching the gloves as soon as my hands heal and dont hurt like f*ck. i dont use straps because i want to keep my hands/forearms strong and also because it would be beta.

so will urine and jizz heal my hands? i actually went for a swim and sea and was amazed how much that helped heal them compared to normal conditions