The perils of raising teens

[Lunchie]

http://www.stuff.co.nz/stuff-nation/ass ... boundaries

So I was reading the above article today that a friend linked on facebook (she is slightly older than me and has a couple kids aged 10 and 12) and it made me think about how I would approach the sex thing.

Basically the crux of the issue was when my kids were old enough to start thinking about sex would I say better in under my roof than at a party or what ?

One idea I read in the article was basically that the parents consented to their teens having bf/gf sleep over under the following conditions, must both be 16 or over, must have both met and be comfortable with each others parents and must have been dating for 3 months and if those criteria were met then basically they could sleep over, anyway i figure there must be a few parents on here so I was curious how you men/women have approached/will approach this issue when the time comes.

From what my youngest siblings tell me it appears that these days its either the teens are given the blessing to stay over (have sex) by the parents or they just lie and find a way to do it anyway but at parties or something, it also seems to me if this is the case then any sort of discouragement would make the teens less likely to ask questions about contraception and safe sex. While on the flip side you don't wanna appear to be encouraging them to go out and find someone to take home, hmmm tough one, any ideas people?

What did your parents tell you? did it work?

[DCYPL]

Well..my mum threw a box of condoms at me when I was 13 and said "Dont let me catch you..."

That was it...

Did it work? I dunno. I grew up around the usual NZ culture (Gangs/alcohol/drugs/sex ect)but I have only ever slept with one girl

[ninjaedit]

Also, I have adopted my younger sisters. Aged 13 and 16. Through our situation (and the situation they came to me from) they have enough respect for me to not go against what I say. I say do it and die... Helps that her (16 year old) boyfriend is 3 hours drive away

Does NOT help my 13 year old sister looks 21

[severe]

I draw the line at my son having more sex than me under my roof.

[mr-universe]

parents can't do much imo

teenagers are gonna f*ck regardless imo

[Diab0lic]

parents can't do much imo

teenagers are gonna f*ck regardless imo

This, if my teen years are anything to go by. And I wasn't fussy where I fvcked either. Bushes, parks, bus stops, my home her home someone elses home. There will always be somewhere they can go and party or they'll just lie about where they are going and who with

Best to just educate them and have that awkward talk or two. My parents never really gave me much of a talk but I didn't need it. Did a bit of BS sex Ed at intermediate but I was already jerking off to pornos and trying to get into girls knickers by then anyway :twisted:

I feel for you man, cant be easy, especially with a daughter. I know what I was like..... It would be fun being a jacked dude and intimidating your daughters boyfriends though \:D/

[Shutupandsquat]

three cheers for buttholes

[Kiwijuice]

Just get her on the pill. Safest option.

[tomsammce]

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[Grover]

parents can't do much imo

teenagers are gonna f*ck regardless imo

This, if my teen years are anything to go by. And I wasn't fussy where I fvcked either. Bushes, parks, bus stops, my home her home someone elses home. There will always be somewhere they can go and party or they'll just lie about where they are going and who with

Best to just educate them and have that awkward talk or two. My parents never really gave me much of a talk but I didn't need it. Did a bit of BS sex Ed at intermediate but I was already jerking off to pornos and trying to get into girls knickers by then anyway :twisted:

I feel for you man, cant be easy, especially with a daughter. I know what I was like..... It would be fun being a jacked dude and intimidating your daughters boyfriends though \:D/

:nod:

It helps but as the previous have all said its going to happen -eventually.

Being in the predicament of 2 teenage daughters we have always talked to them about consequences of their actions, pregnancy,STI's , and the emotional side of these scoundral boys using them and moving on!

I was no angel or puritan but once settled down all that changed and have raised our girls "properly" as our grand parents would say, to have respect for themselves and others, use their manners, not to swear, dress properly hahaha

Forbade them to have boyfriends, sent them to a girls college ( buit just as much untowrd stuff happens to these girls)

Mostly it all comes down to how you raise them and get on with them

Would I let them sleep together, no not as teenagers.

But at the same time they wouldn't dream of asking.