Dumbelldog Posted October 2, 2007 Report Share Posted October 2, 2007 Have to agree with you there Mr HDNZ :grin: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
poos_n_wees Posted October 2, 2007 Report Share Posted October 2, 2007 BUT he gave her the hard work,and pa pow! she was gone,she still lives in town and,still a cool chick but he just wore her down about training and comping,everyone knows here(around the gym) he didnt like her muscled and ripped,he would say to her(ya look like a man eg..) sad i think,dam shame!!!dont know why guys dont like it!I think a small part of it's about people feeling shitty about themselves so then tend to cut down others in a weird attempt to feel better. I think when he says, "you aren't attractive to me" he's actually saying, "I'm not attractive to me". Psycho-babble maybe, but it seems to be true in some cases where a partner got their diet sorted out, trained and started looking hotter.. it became a threat to their partners who have remained the same Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Evie Posted October 2, 2007 Report Share Posted October 2, 2007 Very true poos! My EX from a few years ago was a total arse about me going to the gym! HE was jealous and the closer I came to my goals the harder he pushed for me not to achieve! Becuase he was very much out of shape! He didn't understand anything about training and tried to give me advice and even tried to diagnose me with an over-training, body dismophic and eating disorders! :evil: Hence he is an EX!!!!!! :twisted: I'm not about to let anyone tell me how to look, train or spend my time! If you feel like you have to fight to better yourself then it's time to put an end to it! It really is that black & white! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FastFreddy Posted October 3, 2007 Report Share Posted October 3, 2007 Just like what happened here! ya both right on the money! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MaroSturdy Posted April 28, 2009 Report Share Posted April 28, 2009 I have discussed doing a body building comp with my husband and boy was it the wrong thing to do. I am still keen as pie to do it but how do you get your husband to realise that body building is a sport and not something you do to try and pick up a new husband. Very insecure.Can anyone help?maybe he doesnt like muscles? especially huge-MAN like muscles found on some body building GIRLS. maybe hes scared u'll turn into a man and that turns him off? :shifty: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MaroSturdy Posted April 28, 2009 Report Share Posted April 28, 2009 Very true poos! Hence he is an EX!!!!!! :twisted: I'm not about to let anyone tell me how to look, train or spend my time! If you feel like you have to fight to better yourself then it's time to put an end to it! It really is that black & white!see your attitude is why there are such high rates of divorce... divorce isnt something that should be considered over one little difference, i think you should keep ur lame advice to urself ! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
laurasaur Posted April 28, 2009 Report Share Posted April 28, 2009 huh, I didn't realise it would be that easy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trainharder Posted April 28, 2009 Report Share Posted April 28, 2009 Very true poos! Hence he is an EX!!!!!! :twisted: I'm not about to let anyone tell me how to look, train or spend my time! If you feel like you have to fight to better yourself then it's time to put an end to it! It really is that black & white!see your attitude is why there are such high rates of divorce... divorce isnt something that should be considered over one little difference, i think you should keep ur lame advice to urself !did she say she was married? just that he was an ex.what is wrong with breaking up with someone if you have different views and goals.i wont have someone tell me i cant train or try and achieve what i want either.marriage is different its a huge committment.by that stage you know if your compatible.sometimes you need to date a few people till you find someone similar or at least not too hard work for where you want to be.shes entitled to run her life however she pleases.im sure if she wants marriage advice she wont ever come to you.good luck with the marriage guidance seminars you plan to run. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Evie Posted April 29, 2009 Report Share Posted April 29, 2009 Very true poos! Hence he is an EX!!!!!! :twisted: I'm not about to let anyone tell me how to look, train or spend my time! If you feel like you have to fight to better yourself then it's time to put an end to it! It really is that black & white!see your attitude is why there are such high rates of divorce... divorce isnt something that should be considered over one little difference, i think you should keep ur lame advice to urself !Whoa there... back up buddy, this topic is from 2007! Although my feelings and thoughts are the same! You seem a little sensitve to the subject. What are your thoughts? My attitude has nothing to do with high rates of divorce. FYI, I was not married to this person (EX) but as I changed he tried to become very controling!Having someone try and control your life while you are trying to change yourself for the better is not 'One little difference'. It all starts somewhere from hours in the Gym, diet, social life, work hours... etc The only 'Lame advice' was to be true to yourself and your goals "If you feel like you have to fight to better yourself then it's time to put an end to it!"This is a very real issue for women and men alike. Enough said really! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
biggurl27 Posted April 29, 2009 Report Share Posted April 29, 2009 :clap: Well said Evie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
orange Posted April 29, 2009 Report Share Posted April 29, 2009 Agreed. Sometimes it's important to date a great deal of people, often more than one at a time, to work out if you are compatible. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1day Posted April 30, 2009 Report Share Posted April 30, 2009 *Re: Anyone married with a husband who hates muscles*i love toned/musclely chicks but for me theres a cut off pointie ,nice and still holding feminininininty and too much, would feel like spooning with a man :? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trainharder Posted April 30, 2009 Report Share Posted April 30, 2009 *Re: Anyone married with a husband who hates muscles*i love toned/musclely chicks but for me theres a cut off pointie ,nice and still holding feminininininty and too much, would feel like spooning with a man :? whats it like spooning with a man 1 day ive never had the urge to try Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1day Posted April 30, 2009 Report Share Posted April 30, 2009 whats it like spooning with a real man thats funny, ur mrs was wondering the same thing :wink: :flames: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trainharder Posted April 30, 2009 Report Share Posted April 30, 2009 hehehe good one Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
biggurl27 Posted April 30, 2009 Report Share Posted April 30, 2009 LMAO @ you two, especially hanging out in the Ladies room Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1day Posted April 30, 2009 Report Share Posted April 30, 2009 i heard this was where the partys at.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Small Posted April 30, 2009 Report Share Posted April 30, 2009 i heard this was where the partys at.. all day and night :nod: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luigi Posted April 30, 2009 Report Share Posted April 30, 2009 woah evies back, havnt seen you post in a while Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teamfatboy Posted April 30, 2009 Report Share Posted April 30, 2009 i heard this was where the partys at.. So did I... actually, I agree with a lot of what's said here:If a woman wants to improve herself by getting lean, ripped and built the hard way, that's her choice, and I admire those who take that road. If a husband (or wife, for that matter) seems to want to hold her back, and it can't be fixed by talking him round to her POV, then it's probably due to inadequacies on HIS part, whether it's insecurity, laziness, or envy.Either way, limitations in HIS part shouldn't stop HER from achieving everything she can. You can bet $$ that if things were reversed - if a woman were to tell her husband that he looked "too muscular", he wouldn't let it stop him, right? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
biggurl27 Posted April 30, 2009 Report Share Posted April 30, 2009 Well said :clap: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
michaelk Posted April 30, 2009 Report Share Posted April 30, 2009 Im sure most off the blokes here can attest to the opposite way.. i.e. justifying 10 hours a week and strict diets to their gf's / wives.Not a problem for me, I guess marrying a former professional sports person helps, Charlie kicks my ass to the gym and even trains with me some times (we're a funny pair- one does their set while the other tends to bubs in his car seat as we carry him around the gym with us)I would even go as far as to say, without Charlie.....I wouldn't have been able to win in 2006 or do the pro shows. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Evie Posted May 1, 2009 Report Share Posted May 1, 2009 woah evies back, havnt seen you post in a while Ha ha, I've always been here - just decided to take a backseat when it comes to posting. Most of the time I don't have much to add to conversations, or as my Mum always said "If you can't say something nice don't say anything at all" so I just don't comment, I'm pretty mellow most of the time anyhow and would hate to offend.Totall agree with michaelk it's great to have a supportive partner who understands and helps you achieve your best! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
courts Posted May 1, 2009 Report Share Posted May 1, 2009 good going glad to see you guys got it sorted, im sure he will be much more supportive now and that will help with your training ten fold knowing that your man is behind you will make you train even harder i know having my girl behind me helps me heaps great stuff :grin: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gmm Posted May 2, 2009 Report Share Posted May 2, 2009 Just do it. He'll get over it and if not, that's his problem. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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