Danni33 Posted September 26, 2006 Report Share Posted September 26, 2006 I have discussed doing a body building comp with my husband and boy was it the wrong thing to do. I am still keen as pie to do it but how do you get your husband to realise that body building is a sport and not something you do to try and pick up a new husband. Very insecure.Can anyone help? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deegee Posted September 26, 2006 Report Share Posted September 26, 2006 Very insecure would be right, the only thing I can suggest would be to get him to go to the gym with you, even if you cant get to the gym at the same time always at least he can be involved Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Varven Posted September 27, 2006 Report Share Posted September 27, 2006 Thats a toughie, Im sure most off the blokes here can attest to the opposite way.. i.e. justifying 10 hours a week and strict diets to their gf's / wives.I guess re-marrying one off the forum boys wouldnt be an options :? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
poos_n_wees Posted September 27, 2006 Report Share Posted September 27, 2006 I guess re-marrying one off the forum boys wouldnt be an options :?I'm wit deegee - maybe persuade him to join up at the gym as well, or even train together? Or you could take him to watch a bodybuilding comp? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CutTaBits Posted September 27, 2006 Report Share Posted September 27, 2006 i think taking him to a bodybuilding show is good advice.Would be good for you to. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MasterTel Posted September 27, 2006 Report Share Posted September 27, 2006 Hmm, you say your husband is "very insecure" - perhaps he is jealous of you improving your image/appearance and he feels self-conscious about his own appearance? Perhaps he feels "threatened" by you doing something that he feels he wouldn't be able to? - just a thought. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
2guns Posted September 27, 2006 Report Share Posted September 27, 2006 justifying 10 hours a week and strict diets to their gf's haha more training than this buddy! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mercury Posted September 28, 2006 Report Share Posted September 28, 2006 I have discussed doing a body building comp with my husband and boy was it the wrong thing to do. I am still keen as pie to do it but how do you get your husband to realise that body building is a sport and not something you do to try and pick up a new husband. Very insecure.Can anyone help?My guess is that he's afraid that you'll tone up, lose alot of weight look good and be hanging out with similar likeminded people including guys. In other words as you said, he's insecure. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tallulahangie Posted September 28, 2006 Report Share Posted September 28, 2006 Definitely sounds like an insecure bloke to me!Just do the comp girlfriend! If your husband is not supportive of anything you wish to endeavour then maybe he is not the sort of person you should be spending the rest of your life with! Life is too short as it is, don't let anyone suppress those dreams of yours.Good luck! I wish you all the best. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pseudonym Posted September 28, 2006 Report Share Posted September 28, 2006 Before you go telling your husband he's insecure (possibly not the best move! :grin:) consider this: a lot of people are insecure about bodybuilding. When I did a competition a couple of years back, not one of my "close" circle of friends showed up. The whole thought of bodybuilders on stage made them uncomfortable. And let's be honest - overcoming that social inhibition that's the fear of getting on stage wearing very little is actually part of the appeal and the challenge.So don't be too hard on the poor guy - he may be insecure, but he's not alone. 8) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
2guns Posted September 28, 2006 Report Share Posted September 28, 2006 this is a bit harsh imo.im agree with pseudonyms last post, my mum is really supportive of my bodybuilding but my dad not so.also last girlfriend wasnt too supportive, mostly of me buying all the supplements i needed but shes out the window anyway :pfft: lolDefinitely sounds like an insecure bloke to me! Just do the comp girlfriend! If your husband is not supportive of anything you wish to endeavour then maybe he is not the sort of person you should be spending the rest of your life with! Life is too short as it is, don't let anyone suppress those dreams of yours. Good luck! I wish you all the best. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paul Posted September 28, 2006 Report Share Posted September 28, 2006 Before you go telling your husband he's insecure (possibly not the best move! :grin:) consider this: a lot of people are insecure about bodybuilding. When I did a competition a couple of years back, not one of my "close" circle of friends showed up. The whole thought of bodybuilders on stage made them uncomfortable. 8)I totally agree I havent even botherd this time , to tell my freinds Im doing a show because they dont get IT . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deegee Posted October 1, 2006 Report Share Posted October 1, 2006 Have you managed to get this situation sorted out yet, have you decided on whether or not you will be doing a show ? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Danni33 Posted October 4, 2006 Author Report Share Posted October 4, 2006 Thanks for your feedback. We are both going to the NABBA Comps in Palmerston North this weekend. It could be good for him to see what it is all about, but then it could back fire on me and he may just freakout. Oh well just have to wait and see. Will keep you all posted. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deegee Posted October 4, 2006 Report Share Posted October 4, 2006 Hope you both really enjoy the show, what category are you looking to compete in yourself ? You should also look at starting a journal when you get a goal in mind there are quite a few people here with show experience and hopefuly would help you in the build up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MasterTel Posted October 4, 2006 Report Share Posted October 4, 2006 Yeah, good luck, Danni33 - I'm competing at the NABBA Nationals this weekend and it should be a great show for you guys to watch. Let's hope that after this weekend your hubby is not just supportive of your plans to compete, but also perhaps may be keen to try it himself! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Danni33 Posted October 7, 2006 Author Report Share Posted October 7, 2006 What an awesome show to watch. There are some awesome looking athletes out there. My husband enjoyed the show too. He thought it was amazing. Not that he would do it himself he said. He is behind 100% now and thinks it is a great challenge for me. Thanks guys for all of your support and advice. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deegee Posted October 7, 2006 Report Share Posted October 7, 2006 Good to hear a happy resoloution, look forward to hearing about your progress Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pseudonym Posted October 7, 2006 Report Share Posted October 7, 2006 Excellent! As for not wanting to compete himself... just nod and smile at him for now, but I bet he changes his mind after you do one. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
2guns Posted October 8, 2006 Report Share Posted October 8, 2006 sweet as, good for u. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
poos_n_wees Posted October 8, 2006 Report Share Posted October 8, 2006 What an awesome show to watch. There are some awesome looking athletes out there. My husband enjoyed the show too. He thought it was amazing. Not that he would do it himself he said. He is behind 100% now and thinks it is a great challenge for me. Thanks guys for all of your support and advice.Awesome Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bigboy Posted September 15, 2007 Report Share Posted September 15, 2007 As a man - I think it's great that women work-out. Look at some of those pros -that's a fatastic look which sure beats the hell out of the 'let's have another chocloate muffin for breafast' approach. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dumbelldog Posted September 19, 2007 Report Share Posted September 19, 2007 As a man - I think it's great that women work-out. Look at some of those pros -that's a fatastic look which sure beats the hell out of the 'let's have another chocloate muffin for breafast' approach. Your on to it Big boy, not so sure about the pro body building chicks though :shock: , fitness and figure yes! :nod: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
2guns Posted September 19, 2007 Report Share Posted September 19, 2007 chocloate muffin for breafast' approach. Mmmmm junk food Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FastFreddy Posted October 2, 2007 Report Share Posted October 2, 2007 I have discussed doing a body building comp with my husband and boy was it the wrong thing to do. I am still keen as pie to do it but how do you get your husband to realise that body building is a sport and not something you do to try and pick up a new husband. Very insecure.Can anyone help?HI Danni. i had a member (a lady) that had the same problem,she trained hard,6 days a week,wasnt over muscled at all,still pretty.she comp about 4 years in a row when i was comping too,she was great for my gym too,out going ,fun,talked shit bla bla,BUT he gave her the hard work,and pa pow! she was gone,she still lives in town and,still a cool chick but he just wore her down about training and comping,everyone knows here(around the gym) he didnt like her muscled and ripped,he would say to her(ya look like a man eg..) sad i think,dam shame!!!dont know why guys dont like it!i think muscle chicks are the hottist! its sexy! it makes me think shes not shy of hard work too!,so all those little guys out there bitching about ya miss pumping up! harden up and get to her gym and muscle up ya self! be a man! make her the woman!show her why men are biger,faster and happy shes in the gym! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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